Self-regard is the spinal cord of your emotional intelligence

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Self-regard is respecting oneself while understanding and accepting one’s strengths and weaknesses. Self-regard is often associated with feelings of inner strength and self-confidence. 

If your self-regard is strong, you can take criticism constructively and use it to your own benefit. If your emotional spinal cord is buckled you will feel emotional pain from time to time and it will impact your emotional well-being.

One of the strategies to keep your emotional spinal cord straight is to “own up to your weaknesses”. Although challenging, openly admitting your weaknesses can help keep your self-regard in check with how your other people see you.
  1. Record your reaction to any mistakes or errors you make over the next few weeks. If you find yourself blaming “the system” or others for your mistakes, you might want to start openly admitting your points of weakness.
  2. Rather than placing blame, use mistakes as opportunities to show you know and accept your weaknesses and put in place strategies that manage them, rather than pretending they don’t exist.