Emotional self-awareness is a foundation of emotional intelligence

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Emotional Self-Awareness is the ability to recognize and understand one’s own emotions. People with this competence are able to identify subtle differences in their emotions and know how their emotions affect their behavior, decisions, and performance.

If you are unaware of what is going on inside of you, you can’t influence or change it. But by consistently practicing the skills of emotional self-awareness, you will get great insights about your own world and will be able to change it to your benefit.

You will benefit greatly by knowing “Who, what and why pushes your buttons”. This strategy will help you to take control of the situations when you are provoked or overpowered by your own anger, frustration, or fear. To practice this strategy, turn on the “Radar” of Emotional Self-awareness in order to:

1). identify moments when your “hot buttons” are pushed;
2). recognize which situations,  circumstances,  and/or people push your “hot buttons”;
3). understand the cues for your emotional reactions by reflecting on your expectations, beliefs, and values.

Become “Emotionally Smart” by paying attention to the signals of your self-awareness.

Self-regard is the spinal cord of your emotional intelligence

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Self-regard is respecting oneself while understanding and accepting one’s strengths and weaknesses. Self-regard is often associated with feelings of inner strength and self-confidence. 

If your self-regard is strong, you can take criticism constructively and use it to your own benefit. If your emotional spinal cord is buckled you will feel emotional pain from time to time and it will impact your emotional well-being.

One of the strategies to keep your emotional spinal cord straight is to “own up to your weaknesses”. Although challenging, openly admitting your weaknesses can help keep your self-regard in check with how your other people see you.
  1. Record your reaction to any mistakes or errors you make over the next few weeks. If you find yourself blaming “the system” or others for your mistakes, you might want to start openly admitting your points of weakness.
  2. Rather than placing blame, use mistakes as opportunities to show you know and accept your weaknesses and put in place strategies that manage them, rather than pretending they don’t exist.